How is a narcissist likely to handle situations when confronted with hard truths about themselves?

1.) I read an email my wife sent to a guy trying to meet up with him, telling him he was handsome, all sorts of crap, very flirty, I told her I read it and was not happy about it, guess what? I was the one at fault for reading her emails, she also passed it off to her mum as ‘ I just suggested a coffee if he was nearby’. Her mum then turns on me for being controlling.

2.) I overheard a conversation between her and her mum, she was saying I did things I never did and they both agreed I was an abusive partner that should be reported to social services, also criticised her sister for supporting me. When I confronted her with what I had heard I was told I imagined it, her mum really liked me! I then told her I recorded it all on my phone, to which she shouted ‘ why are you listening to that day in day out, winding yourself up!. Her sister meanwhile knows nothing about it and has now been turned against me.

5.) after splitting up she found my notes from marriage guidance and planted them around the house for me to see, meanwhile printing off quotes and framing them about ‘closure’ also printed information about infidelity and left them around the house, I didn’t bother confronting her as I was finished with her

Why do a lot of women have a crush on my boyfriend when they know he is in a relationship with me? I am starting to feel insecure too. What should I do?

I learnt there’s no point confronting a narc as you simply cannot resolve anything or have a genuine conversation, all they want to do is make themselves out to be a victim and will do anything to achieve this.

Well, here’s a couple of real life situations from my life, when confronted I was met with a barrage of lies I was expected to believe,

4.) in marriage guidance I bought up everything I was unhappy about, she stopped going, her words ‘ it brings up things I don’t want to talk about’.

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3.) getting ready for work she walked in and said her boobs hurt, she was smirking to herself then said ‘ because Tim Richards and I have been having intimate hugs at work’ I let it go as long as I could before confronting her and was told ‘ you imagined it, I never said that, I don’t like him he’s sleezy and slimey’. Guess what the smear campaign against me was?. ‘ I can’t even hug anyone, he’s so jealous,’